The Power of Undeserved Loyalty

Who didn’t grow up in a dysfunctional home? It seemed like every adult we knew ran into challenges that eventually brought them back to their childhood. The confusion surrounding our family kept us from understanding many strange and unnatural events. It's interesting that we knew at an early age to cut our losses with our parents, returning later in life during our fathers death. My mother finally after 75 years revealed her true personality. Every missing piece and question surrounding our childhood would, much to our surprise, be revealed by our mothers behavior. Her vulnerability during the dramatic events surrounding his death would eventually expose her. We didn’t have to search like most people. The reality was enormous and so facinating that upon our fathers request, we are writing a book. The writing of this book seems to be the most cathartic way to see the truth, accept the past and understand the confusion that has constantly lingered in the back of our minds. At ages 47 and 50, we would finally become free.


This book is a result of a journey that began several years ago. The purpose of this writing and posting is to share with others what we have found out about ourselves and our lives. We hope to encourage others who have had similar experiences to begin a journey that may be painful yet healing. It’s important that we point out our compassion and understanding towards our Mother. Forgiveness is a significant part of this journey.